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You strongly however, it becomes
very destructive. To put it accurately, it is not so much that you use your
mind wrongly You usually don't use it at all. It uses you. This is a disease.
You believe that you are your mind. This is the illusion. The instrument has
taken you over. It's very beautiful and very deep. It starts with the mind is a
superb instrument. Why is it a superb instrument? Because it is the cause for
taking everything forward. Because of the mind we experience feelings. Feelings
come into words Then into behaviour. Also energy to the body, to relationships
and to the universe. Everything is starting from the mind. We can look at
anything in this world Today with our Gadgets and our inventions We get carried
away and say they are such good objects of comfort. But who created such
beautiful things? Somebody's mind created them. So what is more powerful - the
things that we appreciate Or the mind which has created those things? So it
says the mind is a superb instrument. If used correctly. And if not, it can be
very destructive. It is our instrument. If we use it the right way It can
create miracles. Otherwise it can cause us harm. The quotation mentioned - it
is not that you use your mind wrongly. Just that you don't use it at all. It
uses you. It's a very deep line. It is not that we are using our mind wrongly.
But we are not at all using our mind. The mind is using us. And we can use it
the way we want. When we want, how we want and for however long we want. We can
use our mind that way. If we look at our vocabulary we say several times a day
My mind does not feel like doing it, or we say - this came to my mind. This
came to my mind and I felt this way. Which means the way I felt was not my
choice. This thought came to my mind and so I felt that way. It says you are
not using your mind but your mind is using you. It means we don't have control
on our mind Our mind is controlling us. Who is driving whom? Are we driving the
mind Or the mind is driving us? If we drive our mind how will our life be? We
will be the masters.
We will start choosing what to think, speak and do. But if
our mind drives us We become slaves to it. That is why we hear people say that
our mind is like an uncontrolled horse. That it keeps running in different
directions. Which belief system is this thought reaffirming? That the mind is
restless and is not in my control. We have to remember that only one of the
equations is possible. Either the mind controls me or I control the mind. There
is no third option. But even if a horse is running in different directions we
need to control the noose But when we talk about mind running in different
directions, we say it is completely out of control. Yes when it has gone out of
control, how do we take charge? It is like a car without a brake. What belief
system is this thought affirming? That my mind does not work the way I want it.
It is a horse but there is no chain or rope to control it. Then the horse will
not go in the direction we want. It will wander as it pleases. It will stop,
run or walk whenever it feels like. It can even throw you. Even our mind is
pushing us from our seat of control. If we do not control the mind the way we
want First of all let's check this belief system Am I controlling my mind or is
my mind controlling me? Because if I stop controlling my mind Then my mind will
start controlling me. It will happen because one of the two must happen. We
need to rule over our mind. God teaches us that we the souls are Masters. Our
orders are executed through our five sense organs They work for us. God tells
us that these are external workers. And that there are three subtle ministers
within. Our mind, intellect and Sanskar. Three inner faculties and five outer
faculties. Who is the master? I the soul. But if the master says - My staff
does not obey me Then the staff will do as they please. If the staff does what
he wants The word used is Manmani (which means what the mind wants) The staff
will do as they please and they will start controlling the master. He will come
when he wants and does not come otherwise. Will work when he feels like
working, and also work the way he is comfortable. And the master will not be
able to say anything to the staff. Because the master has become dependent on
the staff. Instead of the master controlling the staff. So now we need to check
and change our thinking. First of all even saying the line that my mind is not
in my control What happens when we say like that? It will become a reality.
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will become a reality. Not even acceptance but a creation. We have seen so many
episodes that what we want in reality We need to create that same thought.
Whatever we think will manifest into reality. If you repeatedly say - my mind
is not in my control Because we hear from other people also saying - my mind is
not in my control The mind keeps wandering. What is the energy we are giving
it? Whatever we think and speak will become the reality. Let's change this
line. My mind is my instrument. An instrument and we can switch it off or on
whenever we want Whichever channel we want to tune it to, we
should be able to set it to that frequency. For example this hand is also our
instrument. Can we say that this hand is not in my control? We say it is my
hand. Whatever you want to do using it Whenever we want and for however long we
want, we can use it. That is how we use it. If starting from today we will
start saying for a few days This hand is not in my control Even if we just
start sending a message - this hand is not in my control. The sand is not in my
control There will be an influence on it. Same way with the mind. Let's stop
saying this one line from today. This mind is not in my control. We will
replace it with - this mind is my superb instrument. This mind is my fantastic
and superb instrument. It does only positive things. This mind is mine and I am
its master. It works as per my wish. In our daily meditation if we just start
saying this much This mind is mine and I am its master. I can think exactly
what I want, when I want and for however long I want. Just keep saying this
again and again and again to yourself. We will become more powerful than the
mind. But if we start saying - It came to my mind so I did that. I ate that
because the mind felt so. I had decided not to do that but it came to my mind
and I felt weak. Every such line is implying that I don't have any discipline
or control over myself. My mind is driving me. That is why he said it very
beautifully - it's not that you are using your mind wrongly. Just that you are
not using it at all. It is using you. So anytime if such a thought comes to the
mind That something came to my mind or some thought came to my mind That is why
I did like this Every such line makes me a slave of my mind. First of all we
become a slave of our mind, intellect and Sanskar. Next we become slaves of our
sense organs. So today we are saying - I didn't want to see it but I saw. I
didn't want to hear but I heard. I didn't want to say it but I said it. We even
say - I didn't want to hit him but I raised my hand. It is becoming our
vocabulary that all these things are happening automatically. That I am not
driving them. It is true even with addiction. I didn't want to take it, but I
felt like it. We felt like it - what does it mean? What was my decision? Given
in small things like when somebody asks - do you want to have a cup of tea? We
deliberate so much We need to have at least the power to say yes or no
immediately. Just tell that I don't feel like having, but you please have. Yes
even in the smallest things. Most important is that I have to take a decision
Whether it is right for me or not. If I take a decision that it is not right
for me No let the mind ask how many ever times it wants. Let it ask for it any
number of times. Our mind is our child isn't it? We have seen that our mind is
our child. You mentioned that no matter how many times the mind will ask for it
When the mind realises that we will not change our decision no matter what, it
will stop crying and asking. A kid will ask you for things. But you will need
to decide whether what he is asking is right for him or not. If a child asks
you for a knife, and he cries for it He says he wants it, he wants it very
badly. Will you give a knife to him to play with? No? But he is crying badly to
have it. Either I will tell him angrily, lovingly, or I will give him something
else but not a knife. But he continues to cry. I will give him something else
to play. But he is demanding only for a knife. Will you give it to him? No.
Which means let the child cry as much as he wants. Let him cry, scream or throw
tantrums. But don't give that knife to the child Because it is not right for
him. If you give it to him today Suppose we made him hold a knife for 2 minutes
Suppose we say - it is better to give it to him for 2 minutes then make him cry
so much. But even if we give it to him today for just 2 minutes Tomorrow he
will cry for it again. He will cry for other things also. He will also get into
a habit that he will get what he wants when he cries. Same with the mind. What
is self-discipline? What is determination? Once you decide no, it means no.
After that let the mind cry as much as it wants. After a lot of crying it will
finally keep quiet. But today if you give it what is not right for it Then it
will overpower us. It is like if you give a child what he wants, he will come
to know That my parent will listen to me and I will not listen to my parent.
The child will realise that he has a method to get things done. Because when
there is a child and when you are with the child, who should listen to whom?
You know better about what is right for the child. The child will need to obey
you. If elders start obeying everything the child says Who is the loser? The
child can ask for anything. Today we say - My mind asked for it so I gave it.
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Gradually we will say my body asked for it. My body needed it so I gave it. No.
I will take a decision. Of what is right. Once we take a decision If we want to
become strong and strengthen the soul Then take a decision and full stop.
Before taking the decision evaluate what is right and what is wrong. What is
healthy, what is not healthy. Will it increase my willpower or reduce it? Think
of everything. Whoever you want to talk to and take advice, do it. But once you
take a decision If we want that the mind should remain as
our instrument After you decide let the mind say anything. Tell it - No means
No. You cannot get it today. No means no. For example, once my mind knows that
if Suresh Oberoi has quit eating sweets, he will never touch it again It will
not ask even if all the sweets in the world are kept in front of me. Which
means the mind has to understand us. Suppose there is somebody else who knows
you well. He will say - once this person says he will not have sweets, he will
not eat them. Even with other things he will say - once this person commits to
doing this work, he does not need reminders. Other people know about us in this
matter. About some people we say - she will refuse two or three times, but he
will eat if you force him. Because people are of different personalities. Just
like how people know us our mind should also start understanding us. Let the
mind also know us - that once we say No, it means we will not do it. Once he
says he will not eat this, he will never eat it. So my crying is waste of time
and energy. Still the mind will try and it will cry. On every single aspect, if
we start making our mind our instrument Then we will not only benefit in that
aspect Yes. It is an instrument. Either you overpower it or it will overpower
you. Even in one aspect if an instrument overpowers us Then always that
instrument will overpower us. Then it's not only for that one thing. If we are
losing to it repeatedly about one thing also If we are repeatedly becoming the
slave to our mind Then it is not only restricted to one thing. Overall either
the mind is the master or I am the master. It cannot happen that sometimes the
mind is the master and sometimes I am the master. No, that cannot happen. There
can only be one master. Either I am the master, or the mind is my master. Who
is it? If we give up our power Then it will become difficult to control his
mind. To what kind of children do we say, that they have gone out of control?
To whom do we say that they don't obey us? Those children whom we did not
discipline at the beginning itself. Somebody sees that a child is not behaving
properly or is not disciplined They will not complain about the child. They
will say parents have not taught that child the right things. They say the
parents have not discipline the child. So it is not a mistake of the child. It
is the parents' mistake. Because parents had to discipline the child from his
young age. But if the parent kept giving in to the child They gave him whatever
he asked for, they did whatever he wanted If they did not teach the child
discipline They did not teach the child how to accept a 'No'. After that the
child cannot hear a No. Same with the mind. If we keep on giving it Whatever
the mind asks for That is when the soul starts becoming weak. After that we
will not have control over the mind. Now we need to use the mind as an
instrument. First of all we need to have this awareness and create the thought.
And during the day if any time we get a thought Such as - it came to my mind or
my mind said so Then we need to again remind ourselves No matter what the mind
says, I need to do whatever is right for me. For that we need to consciously
make the mind go our way. When we are conscious even the mind obeys us like how
a dog obeys its master. Which means at that time you are using the mind. Which
means you are conscious, that means you are aware. Aware means you are driving
the mind. When your unaware, the mind is driving you. The mind waits for us to
be unaware so it can attack. Right now shooting is going on. To wake up at 5
a.m. the morning for the shooting, I set an alarm for the first day and then
for the second day. The mind was not ready on the first day. It kept saying -
why wake up so early, it is so cold, we are in a hilly region. I said - No,
nothing doing. Second day also I had to set the alarm. But the third day I woke
up 10 minutes earlier itself, even before the alarm went off. There was no
resistance from the mind. I felt I woke up very fresh. Earlier the mind would
create thoughts - sleep is incomplete, let me sleep for 15 minutes more. It
would bargain but I would say - Nothing doing, just wake up. Now the mind does
not say a single thing. It wakes up by itself. It is as if the mind is totally
trained. See the word you used. Now the mind is going as per our way. For the
first two days the mind was trying to get its way done. Initially when the mind
started to say different things to you You did not listen to it. It kept saying
- we will wake up a little later, first have a cup of tea, it is so cold. You
replied - No, need to get up now and start work. Again the mind said - let us
go after 30 minutes. You said No. It was bargaining for at least 15 minutes
more of sleep. And then how many days did it take to train it? Just two or
three days. It is so simple and we need to do it everywhere. The first day it
was a struggle to even walk off find my spectacles also in the morning. Because
the master had become a slave at that moment. I the soul I am the master, or I
the soul am a Slave - life is completely different with each of them. Now we
need to hold onto this experience. Now what I did in this situation, I will do
in every single situation. In every situation I will take the decision and my
mind will follow. In some people who have taken to addictions A lot of people
tend to speak more. They speak unintentionally and say they just cannot stop.
This is the second stage, isn't it? First there is no control on the mind. So
there will be no control on the speech also. At the next stage that will not be
control on the hands. That can happen during a quarrel. Not necessarily a
quarrel.
The moment they get angry they pick up something and throw it. An
angry teacher throws chalk, someone at office can throw a paper weight. Some
people throw papers. All this means totally out of control. When it comes to
words Where we need not speak, we should not. It cannot be stopped at the level
of speech. Okay. What do we speak? We speak whatever the mind thinks. So we
need to stop at the level of mind. We cannot stop at the level of speech. This
is the creator and here it is coming out. For example we cannot stop at the
level of eating. We need to stop at the level of the mind. What does addiction
about food mean? It cannot stop at the level of eating or putting it into the
mouth. We say we just picked it and put it into the mouth. It is not happening
here actually. It had to stop in the mind. The hand and mouth are not doing
anything. If it has to be controlled at the level of the mind, the mind should
be in our control. Then even the body cannot say anything. It's here, the
message conveyed by the mind. When the mind starts crying - I want this, I want
that That vibration radiates to the body. The body will go through those
changes. That is why we call it a craving. When we say we feel of craving,
where is the craving actually? It is in the mind. The moment you silence the
mind The body will stop getting the vibration. The body only responds to the
vibration that it gets. And vibration is coming from here. So if the mind stops
crying If the mind obeys us The body is already our instrument. Let us take one
thought which we need to create every morning and during the day. This mind is
my instrument. This mind belongs to me and it functions the way I want it to
be. Even if we are feeling it is not going according to us Our thoughts become
the reality. So what should we start thinking? This mind works according to my
way. My mind always obeys me. Mind is my obedient instrument. Just keep giving
this message. And then if the mind cries for anything, never do what it asks
you to do. We should never listen to it then. After a while it will stop
crying. The line says so beautifully - you start using it. As we saw, when we
consciously create thoughts being aware For example a few days ago we were
saying - I cannot forgive, I cannot do this. Why are we unable to do it?
Because we are not consciously creating that thought. I read a beautiful
message sometime back. A brother wrote - I separated from my wife. But I was
not able to forgive her. So he put a password to his email account as
"forgive her" Okay. He had to enter It several times a day. See how
we can use techniques. He wrote in his message that when you have to repeatedly
type as Forgive her, forgive her When you are typing the email password You are
creating it first here and then typing there. He beautifully said that within a
month His emotion towards her had changed. Because he had repeatedly created
that thought. And then he said the next month he put a password - quit smoking.
This is affirmation. So we will create a thought, consciously choose it And
when we create that thought The mind will be our way. So from today letters
reaffirm one line. My mind is my instrument It is an obedient instrument and
functions my way...
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