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In front of my place on Maui there is a beautiful set of 11
or 12 palm trees and these are like 30 40 50 feet tall they've been there for I
don't know how long decades and when the winds come and when the storms come
the storms will blow them over there they are watch and this is amazing elastic
things I learned so much from these things I go out there when I was when I did
this when I wrote the essay in the book on the verse 73 I just went out there
with the palm trees and I would just commune with these palm trees and they go
all the way and then they come all the way back that's a symbol for how we need
to think in our own lives in verse 73 it says it is heavens way to conquer
without striving it does not ask yet it is supplied with all that it needs it
does not hurry yet it completes everything on time one of my favorite lines
from the Dow when our favorite beliefs from the dow is this that you're doing
nothing all of you you're doing nothing you're just being done just like you
were the first nine months of your life you think you're out there and you're
making this happen and you're making that happen and you've got all these rigid
things and you have to apply your life this way you're not doing anything any
more than you were having your fingernails show up when they were supposed to
and look at you look at all of you look around you know it's like you know what
held it in yesterday hit huh I don't know I'm not doing anything they fall out
and that they don't fall out and no matter how hard I tried to keep him in there
finally my kids said give it up give it up so I was over in England and they
told me that I couldn't take my shampoo bottles on the plane and there's
nothing you can do about it I said yes there is I'll just shave my head I no
longer need shampoo ok so we want to move from stiffness to flexibility the
next thought that I'd like to see us change that the Dow taught me so much was
living by interfering to shift that to living by not interfering you know that
every one of your children have the anchor of the universe located within them
and that khalil gibran this is a paraphrase he said your children are not your
children they are the products of life's longing for itself they come through
you but not for you they're not there for you so what are you doing interfering
in their lives now i'm not talking about letting them play out in the traffic
or play at the edge of a swimming pool if they don't know how to swim i'm
talking about that
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I'm talking about I called this when I was when I was
working on this and living this and practicing this for that full year of 2006
the bite your tongue zip your lips verses of the doll verse 29 of the Dow do
you think you can take over the universe and improve it I do not believe it can
be done everything under heaven is a sacred vessel and cannot be controlled
trying to control leads to ruin trying to grasp we lose allow your life to
unfold naturally allow other people's lives to unfold naturally as well we have
parents I see them a lot they're called helicopter because they're always
hovering there hovering over their kids and they're telling them what to do and
what not to do in it my son came over from England my son Shane and he was
going to get ready to go to college go to college in America and my wife said
to me so you're going to take him and show him how about registration right I
said oh yeah i'll be doing that she said well make sure that you helped him
because he doesn't know have any idea how to register at the schools great big
school of thousands of people I said yeah and I do right I would know how to
register kids at school yeah and so a shame got in the car and I said it's all
going to be fine you all be fine and we drive over to the campus and I drop
them off when i had my tennis racket in the back and he said where you're going
i said well i'm a profit i said i get paid by the thought I have a tennis match
and then I have to walk on the beach so that I could paid but he said but what
about the registration is it and while the registration I said you'll do a lot like
I did when I learned to register what do you mean I said you'll just go up to
the people and say where is registration and they'll say it's over there where
all of those people are all lined up if I remember those days and a college of
40,000 students or so finding out on a register Tracy did I take you to
register honey now so he said you mean you this guy said yeah you just go
that's what you want daddy to walk with you over and take you to graduate
you're 18 years old and you want daddy to register you y'all know I wouldn't
want that so we got home at the end of the the end of the evening when that was
when i get back home and my wife had said to me she said did you help Shane at
registration all I said I gave him so much help probably the most help he ever
had in his life I taught him how to do things for himself and so that I
wouldn't have to be interfering and hovering over and figuring it all out for
them my children know that when their science project comes up that I'm there
for consultation but I pass science I got through that myself and you'll be
doing your own science project if I can help you I'll be happy to help you but
I'm not going to be getting the glue and figuring out how to make a time clock
and all that I should you know just just look at a clock that's how you tell
time for me whatever it might be and and it's not an uncaring and it's not a
callous attitude at all it's an awareness that your children have the anchor of
the universe located within them that's what Lao Tzu said now my dear friend
who I love so much she's right here in the audience Kerry right
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there carry on
it's from Molly she has two beautiful little daughter and she asked me if I
would watch them one afternoon when my grandson Carter was visiting I said I'd
be happy to watch them she says but you don't understand I mean they're gonna
they're going to do this and they're gonna do that I said you just go off and
she was studying for an exam I said you go study do whatever you have to do I
can handle three little kids out at the swimming pool for three or four hours I
can handle that so she went off very nervous gave me list told me what to do
what they might say what they might not say then if she says no Kylie says this
you tell Colleen if my lease is hos Kylie Kylie and Carter huh so they go out
there and right here there's a little pool over here little swimming pool and I
watch them over in the swimming pool and Kylie takes the water and splashes my
grandson a garter and splashes kamaole and Kylie comes over to me and runs over
within two minutes says Kylie splurged Smith of course I'm working on the dot
non-interference I said splashing honey is in the way of things when you're
near water splashing will take place she said yeah but but she splashed me I
said you'll probably work this out this will all be fine she stood there for
the longest time was a little lip and so on and finally she realized she wasn't
getting anywhere with me she went back before you know it one of them had taken
now kylie and kylie are teaming up against Carter then they pushed them under
or whatever now one of them is five and one of them is four and one of them is
seven or eight and Carter comes running over fast as he can run zone he calls
me bombuh I'm grandpa mom pop bumper bumper Miley Miley pushed me under the
water I said Carter I'm a Taoist master but bomba bomba you pushed me she put
me under us and you'll just have to work this one out there I'm a Taoist mess
this went on all for the for the first hour or so but I noticed as I was less interfering
and less interfering that they were working it out they tried again after a few
times they come over and they wanted this and they'd want to employ someone of
it but each time when I let them know that I was watching and making sure they
were safe but I wasn't going to interfere wasn't going to resolve it i wasn't
going to settle their disputes for them i wasn't going to be a helicopter
parent even for an afternoon and the way that it was resolved itself with they
had the anchor of the universe with is no they have a nature they know what to
do one of my favorite things always to say to my children when there's a
conflict is you know what the right thing to do is what do you think you know
you have it in
your heart you are a divine being they all know that I've said
those words to them over and over again you'll figure it out you'll work it out
now that not I'm going to interfere I'm going to tell them what to do you can
practice this so many places so many ways in your life particularly as parents
even in business it's very important in businesses to allow the people to say
at the end of the day right out of the Dow oh we did that ourselves we did it
ourselves in the Dow it says there's a time for everything and everything in
its time there's a time for everything listen to this there's a time for being
a head and a time for being at peace there's a time for being in motion and a
time for being at rest there's a time for being vigorous and a time for being
exhausted and in the Bible to everything there is a season a
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time for every
purpose under the Sun I practice this was so helpful to me particularly as I do
my yoga practice they're my other practice it's there are some very exhausting
postures I do this become hot yoga all right so it's 105 or between 105 and 110
49 and there's one that I used to hate it's called triangle you know and so you
put your foot out here and then you do this and then you get yourself up and
you go all the way down and you get yourself in balance like here so your
bounce balance down and you take your arms out here and then you take these
like this and it's 105 degrees and there you take one and you're looking up
here at your arm your look at you look at you look and then you bring it back
and it lasts a full minute and I used to just wait for that minute to be over
like that when are they going to bring me on this pasta or so exhaust I started
practicing what the doubt teaches and I remember there's a time for being
exhausted there's a time for that and as I part to Center to end there's a time
for being at rest and it's coming hopefully soon but in your life in your life
there's an awareness that there is a time for all the things that are go on
that you think shouldn't be happening in the Dow it says that hidden in all misfortune
is good fortune hidden in the misfortune that you have is good portion because
no storm can last forever even nature cannot create a storm that lasts forever
ultimately hidden within every storm is calmness hidden within every flood is
drought and dryness hidden within all of the storms of your life is the piece
that you desire and it leans on you if you stop telling yourself and just let
yourself go with it to be at harmony with it rather than fine you can see why
this is called the wisest book ever written and we're just touching on it here
just touching on this lao-tzu was green before Eleanor he was this is verse 39
of the doubt attained when man interferes with the doll the sky becomes filthy
the earth becomes depleted the equilibrium crumbles creatures become extinct
therefore nobility is rooted in humility finally I'd like to say to you and
understanding this idea of the dial is to take time yourself for being in
nature take an hour a day every day of your life take an hour a day no matter
how busy you are no matter what scheduling that you have to get out in nature
walk barefoot on the grass walk there is one of the great ways to overcome an
inability to sleep at night just go out when you can't sleep and just walk on
the grass walk on the earth and reconnect yourself now go out and be with the
tree and look at what you can learn from nature look at these trees look at
these animals you can study you look at that look at me you can study a flower
like that that it's so magnificent as its unfolding that's an actual photograph
of this thing growing and unfolding there you'll be with that you have much to
learn from nature from water from the sky from the winds from the trees from
the bird looks the more you do it the more you see yourself in all of them the
more you'll feel yourself as a connected being living the doll another thought
to change to change from thinking big to thinking small it's so much of the Dow
has in it statements that seems so paradoxical and so confusing to us more is
less less is more think small and get great things done accomplish great things
listen to verse 64 of a doubt attain a tree that fills a man's embrace grow
from a seedling a tower nine stories high starts with one brick and here's the
most famous line out of a job a journey of a thousand miles begins with what
one first step okay so today I can stand up here on this stage in this
beautiful sacred place in this beautiful yin-yang symbol on this incredibly
beautiful set that feels so much like nature and I can say to you that in a
very short time this year I will have completed 20 years without taking a drink
of alcohol 20 years thank you now that's big that's big because I drank every
day not to get drunk but I drank every day two or three beers every evening
after running and it was like I couldn't remember a day when I hadn't hacked I
thought back ten years while I couldn't think of a day not one day in the
previous decade or two that I had not had a beer or several beers so that's me
and if I would have tried if I'd have said to myself 20 years ago Wayne you're
going to quit drinking for the next 20 years I would have gone immediately and
had a drink because it's just too big isn't it it's just too big you don't do
big things you do small things and thus accomplish great things it's a very
important distinction to make whatever it is that you would like to create or
contribute or become in your life take one step how did I let drinking go for
20 years and I don't even know about tomorrow I never think about tomorrow and
what I'm going to have a drink all I know for sure is that this won't be the
day I do it one day at a time that's how you overcome anything called an
addiction in your life you take it you reconnect yourself to the source from
which you came which is a source of what well-being isn't it and you get back
and return get on the return trip and say I am connected to well-being and I'll
do this one day one hour one minute one second if I have two at a time and when
you do it i mean it's behind in all of the programs for overcoming addictions
and all of the work of bill w all of the work of Alcoholics Anonymous all of
the work of any kind of addictions it isn't just alcohol it can be food it can
be the addiction to your email it can be addiction to work it can be addiction
to so many things so many people find that they can't get past and to move
themselves into a place where I think small I've ran seven marathons in my
running years and about the 22nd or 23rd mile you begin to ask yourself about
your sanity and what am I doing here and my body is breaking down but the way
that you finish the marathon is not by saying I'm going to run 26 miles you
don't do that especially when you still got five or six to go you just say to
yourself can I put my foot in front of the next one can I take one step at a
time can I do it one step at a time and before you know it you've accomplished
great things...
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